Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[aozer]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Yup.

I was talking to a chick recently. Met online, was texting for about a week and everything seemed to be going well, then she hits me with the "TBH, I'm a bit overwhelmed by how much you've been messaging me".

Ok, GFY.

ive started to only respond once or twice a day to girls i match with on bumble. it seems to be working pretty well. it leaves them wanting more and gives the impression that i really dont give a shit. ive even had girls start offering me their number so that i can message faster lol. then, when they offer their number i tell them that ill only give them my number if the first date goes well. they eat that shit up.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by aozer

ive started to only respond once or twice a day to girls i match with on bumble. it seems to be working pretty well. it leaves them wanting more and gives the impression that i really dont give a shit. ive even had girls start offering me their number so that i can message faster lol. then, when they offer their number i tell them that ill only give them my number if the first date goes well. they eat that shit up.

You must be a lot better looking than me.

If I do that they just unmatch because they aren't getting enough attention haha.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

A few times a day with nothing serious lol. And yes usually she would reply right away. Even asked for snapchat.

Then she's just an ahole. If she didn't wanna talk, she would not have replied. F her.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Then she's just an ahole. If she didn't wanna talk, she would not have replied. F her.

Yup, just unfriended her on both snapchat and facebook, which are both things she initially requested after we went for coffee. Also deleted her number. I don't need this kind of negativity in my life.

[nyalpine90]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Yup, just unfriended her on both snapchat and facebook, which are both things she initially requested after we went for coffee. Also deleted her number. I don't need this kind of negativity in my life.

send her dog shit in shoe box

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by nyalpine90

send her dog shit in shoe box

better yet put poo in a paper bag, put it on her porch and light it on fire

[pennsiveguy]

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[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

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/thread

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

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Lmaoooooooo

[FuriouslyFast]

Love these jackass women that call themselves a "free spirit". Aka lazy with no ambition or passion.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Love these jackass women that call themselves a "free spirit". Aka lazy with no ambition or passion.

Free spirit = I don't have a clue WTF I want to do in life, want zero obligations or things holding me down, and also want zero accountability for any of my actions.

Also see: narcissist

[premier3is]

Alright guys.... if you match with someone and talk for like two week or so and realize she probably isn't for you but she'd like to meet up and go on a date, would y'all go? I have not told her we probably won't work, but I know for a fact we would smash first date from our conversations and how they have been going.

I just feel like I'd be wasting time, even if I get her in the sheets. And as pennsiveguy pointed out, time is money.

Would y'all honestly go?

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright guys.... if you match with someone and talk for like two week or so and realize she probably isn't for you but she'd like to meet up and go on a date, would y'all go? I have not told her we probably won't work, but I know for a fact we would smash first date from our conversations and how they have been going.

I just feel like I'd be wasting time, even if I get her in the sheets. And as pennsiveguy pointed out, time is money.

Would y'all honestly go?

I'll leave the "Fuck yeah, go bang the ho!" response to FuriouslyFast , since nobody can say such a thing nearly as eloquently as he can.

If it were me and I was looking for something long-term and knew that this person had zero long-term potential, I'd probably make a graceful exit. If you have sex, everything changes in terms of expectations and perceived commitment. Even when it's mutually agreed that there are no strings attached. It's human biology. I just don't like dealing with the mess of getting dis-entangled with someone who may have misinterpreted my intentions, no matter how clear I thought I made them. I like things tidy, and I don't like anyone getting bummed out if it can be avoided. Just my $.02.

[qba335i]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright guys.... if you match with someone and talk for like two week or so and realize she probably isn't for you but she'd like to meet up and go on a date, would y'all go? I have not told her we probably won't work, but I know for a fact we would smash first date from our conversations and how they have been going.

I just feel like I'd be wasting time, even if I get her in the sheets. And as pennsiveguy pointed out, time is money.

Would y'all honestly go?

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright guys.... if you match with someone and talk for like two week or so and realize she probably isn't for you but she'd like to meet up and go on a date, would y'all go? I have not told her we probably won't work, but I know for a fact we would smash first date from our conversations and how they have been going.

I just feel like I'd be wasting time, even if I get her in the sheets. And as pennsiveguy pointed out, time is money.

Would y'all honestly go?

If she is 9-10 I would go and enjoy the experience. If average-looking be honest and tell her that you don't think this is a good match.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

I'll leave the "Fuck yeah, go bang the ho!" response to FuriouslyFast , since nobody can say such a thing nearly as eloquently as he can.

If it were me and I was looking for something long-term and knew that this person had zero long-term potential, I'd probably make a graceful exit. If you have sex, everything changes in terms of expectations and perceived commitment. Even when it's mutually agreed that there are no strings attached. It's human biology. I just don't like dealing with the mess of getting dis-entangled with someone who may have misinterpreted my intentions, no matter how clear I thought I made them. I like things tidy, and I don't like anyone getting bummed out if it can be avoided. Just my $.02.

My exact thoughts lol. I am the same way, I know what happens with the attachments after that night. She will feel it's much more, when I clearly know it isn't.

To the other comment above. She's no 9-10, 6.5-7 tops lol. Some good ol' head wouldn't hurt though

I know FuriouslyFast will jump in here and call me a bitch for not 'bangin that ho' lol, let's see what happens. Should I atleast go on a date to meet her? Might be chill in person.

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

If it were me and I was looking for something long-term and knew that this person had zero long-term potential, I'd probably make a graceful exit. If you have sex, everything changes in terms of expectations and perceived commitment. Even when it's mutually agreed that there are no strings attached. It's human biology. I just don't like dealing with the mess of getting dis-entangled with someone who may have misinterpreted my intentions, no matter how clear I thought I made them. I like things tidy, and I don't like anyone getting bummed out if it can be avoided. Just my $.02.

^this.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

Free spirit = I don't have a clue WTF I want to do in life, want zero obligations or things holding me down, and also want zero accountability for any of my actions.

Also see: narcissist

Oh look, SOMETHING SHINY!

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by premier3is

My exact thoughts lol. I am the same way, I know what happens with the attachments after that night. She will feel it's much more, when I clearly know it isn't.

To the other comment above. She's no 9-10, 6.5-7 tops lol. Some good ol' head wouldn't hurt though

I know FuriouslyFast will jump in here and call me a bitch for not 'bangin that ho' lol, let's see what happens. Should I atleast go on a date to meet her? Might be chill in person.

If you really know it won't go past one date........then
I wouldn't.

But I'm old school and really have to see them in the flesh as texting and even talking on the phone can be misleading if they are nervous.

But like I said, I like to meet them. After that, I'm pretty good in judging very quickly and would end it after coffee or something small.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

If you really know it won't go past one date........then
I wouldn't.

But I'm old school and really have to see them in the flesh as texting and even talking on the phone can be misleading if they are nervous.

But like I said, I like to meet them. After that, I'm pretty good in judging very quickly and would end it after coffee or something small.

Right. Not going to dinner with this girl, coffee will be sufficient if I end up meeting her.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright guys.... if you match with someone and talk for like two week or so and realize she probably isn't for you but she'd like to meet up and go on a date, would y'all go? I have not told her we probably won't work, but I know for a fact we would smash first date from our conversations and how they have been going.

I just feel like I'd be wasting time, even if I get her in the sheets. And as pennsiveguy pointed out, time is money.

Would y'all honestly go?

First, you're doing it wrong with talking for weeks before meeting. Set the meeting up within an hour of exchanging numbers!!! If she has excuses etc, move on. She's not interested & wasting your time.

In this case, is she attractive enough to sit through a drink & then bang? If so, go meet her. However, make her come to you. For now, I live in a town with a happening main drag so I can just walk to bars & food. So I have them come to my town & I walk there already buzzed

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Right. Not going to dinner with this girl, coffee will be sufficient if I end up meeting her.

Cut this coffee shit out, kids!! Meet for a drink!

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Alright guys.... if you match with someone and talk for like two week or so and realize she probably isn't for you but she'd like to meet up and go on a date, would y'all go? I have not told her we probably won't work, but I know for a fact we would smash first date from our conversations and how they have been going.

I just feel like I'd be wasting time, even if I get her in the sheets. And as pennsiveguy pointed out, time is money.

Would y'all honestly go?

Why waste her time when you know it won't go past getting laid a few times?
I just find it hypocritical to shit on ""free spirit"" women and act the same way