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Originally Posted by Kelse92
Curious, all other things equal (eg personality compatibility, chemistry, mutual attraction, etc), how much weight you guys put on things like age/financial status/career path when dating??
Currently in a situation where I've been on a few dates with a few different guys and all three are great and pretty much equal in all of the personal categories; but all very different in the "material" categories if you want to label it that. Not sure which road I want to go down if I want to pursue a relationship with any, each one has pros-cons. Without getting too much into specifics...
The oldest one is the most well off/stable career & 1yr divorced & college age children
Youngest one (closest to my age) most risky/unclear career path & no kids
Third one right in-between and has a 2yr old son & travels for work 70-80% of the time & half the weekends not traveling are spent with his son.
Obviously you guys can't make the decision for me but curious how you all weigh these things from your perspectives, all other things being equal.
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Don't date people with kids if you are looking for something long term. Dating someone who already has kids is like playing someone else's paused game.
They will always put them first as a priority (as they should). If you have kids also, that's one thing, but I find if you don't it makes things very difficult and one-sided.
As far as career/financial, I don't look for that specifically. I focus more on someone's character which tends to lead me towards people similar to me anyway. You can tell right away if someone is in a rough spot in their life but is a hard worker, or if they are a bum looking for handouts.
Age is just a number
but it's much easier to relate to someone around your age for the most part. I know couples where there is a significant age difference and it does sometimes cause issues because they are in different stages of life. As far as your 3 choices, why limit yourself? Sometimes the answer is "none of the above" and that's perfectly okay, which many people seem to forget.