This, I think, explains the situation at hand well:
https://dadstartingover.com/dear-dso...oxic-behavior/
As mentioned by your responses above, and as my quick google search of "congruence tests" has shown... these shit tests are "tests", they are not continued behavior.
However, she has demonstrated continued bad behavior, for example with her clearly hating me cycling... and even if I did win the Tour de France, I would still not be sexy enough to the average Joe hitting the gym 3 times a week.
Oh well, time to talk to her...
Any more input welcome!