Happy Valentine's Day ...OK, time to share

[BigLeo48]

Shiyan,

to me, asking total strangers in public places is a total waste of time. The odds that you get a date and that you are somewhat compatible is a long shot. Most people meet via work or other activities where you can get the know the other person a little first (as you mentioned in your last message). I'll tell you how I met my wife and you can tell me if it's a good idea (my kids hate this story).

I moved to a new small city as a career move. I didn't know anyone and I played baseball, so I joined a mens league. One of the office girls noticed that I played and mentioned to me that her ladies team's coach moved away and they were looking for a replacement. At first I was too shy to say yes, but she worked on me and I eventually gave in. But once I thought about it, I figured 20 young women giving me their full attention! What could be better My wife had just came home for the summer after finishing University and loved sports too and for the same reasons, joined the ladies ball team. The rest is history.

My point is that this all started with my intention to so something I liked (sports). BTW, I met a few girls in coed sports in the past, before I met my wife.

You're working hard at it, but you need to work smarter and put yourself in a position to meet women while doing something you like. If it doesn't happen, then you're having fun anyway.

Big Leo

[Hawkeye]

I would have definitely gone back the second time... but I think talking to and asking total strangers for advice on the topic took more balls than actually asking her out! Haha.

Well done. Believe me, you are not the only person to have asked out a married woman before... (multiple times)

[Hawkeye]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

That line would probably piss me off actually. Your delivery needs much work, grasshopper.

I usually play dumb and at some point ask "Is your boyfriend from around here" or something to that effect. If she says yes then you didn't make a fool of yourself. If she says no then you are set up to compliment her " I just thought someone as cute as you would have a boyfriend" and ask for a date

[F87LUV]

Ohhh so youre slick, Hawk. His delivery needs work. And we're not stupid, we know you think youre slick by bringing up that whole "so your boyfriend..." line just so you can find out if we're single or not.



Cant play, a playa.

[BZZZE]

C'mon girls, share your secrets with Shiyan! LOL

[SoCalSizzle]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

Ohhh so youre slick, Hawk. His delivery needs work. And we're not stupid, we know you think youre slick by bringing up that whole "so your boyfriend..." line just so you can find out if we're single or not.

Oh give him a break ZGirl, he's a guy. And guys, just so you know, (I think I can speak for most of us on the softer side) we'd rather you simply be honest, tell us you're interested in us and just ask if we're seeing anyone.

Playas are playas and just make me tired...so not worth the effort.

[pbdm4k]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

Ohhh so youre slick, Hawk. His delivery needs work. And we're not stupid, we know you think youre slick by bringing up that whole "so your boyfriend..." line just so you can find out if we're single or not.

Cant play, a playa.

"So you have a boyfriend?"
if she says yes...
"Oh... well... give me a call when you're ready for a manfriend!"


Not like I'd ever use that line though...

But Shiyan, I don't think its a big deal about asking for a girl's name when you don't know them that well.

If anything, I say introduce yourself first, "By the way, I'm ..." put yourself out there first so she won't jump on the defensive. Most cases they'll take the hint and introduce themselves too.

Be friendly, don't be creepy. Too friendly is creepy. Rather then saying "go for a date" why not make it a little more subtle? Ask her to maybe join you for a coffee?

[rosierobins2003]

Originally Posted by pbdm4k

If anything, I say introduce yourself first, "By the way, I'm ..." put yourself out there first so she won't jump on the defensive. Most cases they'll take the hint and introduce themselves too.

Be friendly, don't be creepy. Too friendly is creepy. Rather then saying "go for a date" why not make it a little more subtle? Ask her to maybe join you for a coffee?

PBDM4K you've got it.....introduce yourself first and asking for coffee is less threatening than asking for a date.

BIGLEO - I love your story....I've heard that best to be doing what you like doing to meet someone.

Hawkeye - you've been married a while, huh? I agree with Socal and Z4Girl that the line fishing for if you're available is best done straight up. Just ask, don't be a playa.

Rosie

[Hawkeye]

lol, I like how I get construed as a player now :P

I am 23 and very happily (is that even a word?) single.

Just saying, there are ways to find out if they are taken besides just guessing. It works for me most of the time.

[rosierobins2003]

Originally Posted by Hawkeye

lol, I like how I get construed as a player now :P

I am 23 and very happily (is that even a word?) single.

Just saying, there are ways to find out if they are taken besides just guessing. It works for me most of the time.

Oh, sorry, I was confusing you with BIG LEO. At least now we know you're single and YOUNG!! lol

[BZZZE]

Originally Posted by Hawkeye

lol, I like how I get construed as a player now :P

I am 23 and very happily (is that even a word?) single.

Just saying, there are ways to find out if they are taken besides just guessing. It works for me most of the time.

RFLMAO! That is the understatement of the year! A crotch rocket, BMW Z4 coupe and 23 yo...If your pic isn't posted under Playa in the online encyclopedia it should be! LOL

jk BTW

[rosierobins2003]

Originally Posted by BZZZE

RFLMAO! That is the understatement of the year! A crotch rocket, BMW Z4 coupe and 23 yo...If your pic isn't posted under Playa in the online encyclopedia it should be! LOL

jk BTW

Yah, and BZZZE how old are you?

[BigLeo48]

Originally Posted by rosierobins2003

Oh, sorry, I was confusing you with BIG LEO. At least now we know you're single and YOUNG!! lol

I dunno Rosie...how old hmmmm I mean how young are you? One thing about being younGER is that these things take up so much of your time and energy. I don't miss it one bit. My life now is way better than whne I was dating!

[ATX750i]

wow, so much advice on this thread, Im taking notes big time. LOL.

[F87LUV]

Originally Posted by BZZZE

RFLMAO! That is the understatement of the year! A crotch rocket, BMW Z4 coupe and 23 yo...If your pic isn't posted under Playa in the online encyclopedia it should be! LOL

jk BTW

So umm... what about a girl version of that? Whats she?



Guys stop attacking me, Im just playing around. It would be nice if everyone could be honest but lets face it, itll never happen. It would be great if i could walk upto a guy and say "Hi I think youre hot, wanna go out?" But chances are that I would never do that [well sober anyway ]

I mean look how honest Ive been with Hawkeye and he still wont acknowledge my leghumping.

[pbdm4k]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

So umm... what about a girl version of that? Whats she?



Guys stop attacking me, Im just playing around. It would be nice if everyone could be honest but lets face it, itll never happen. It would be great if i could walk upto a guy and say "Hi I think youre hot, wanna go out?" But chances are that I would never do that [well sober anyway ]

I mean look how honest Ive been with Hawkeye and he still wont acknowledge my leghumping.

Wish I had a coupe right about now... :P

[F87LUV]

hey ^ btw is toronto anywhere near montreal? im coming up for the f1 grand prix in june

[BZZZE]

Rosie, I'm "Old enuff to know better but too young to care!" LOL

Z4 girl...l have never attacked you. Might be fun though! (wink)

[karmasabish]

Shiyan we all get shot down from time to time. The key is to keep up your confidence, be polite, charming, and honest. I give you alot of credit of what you did...it can be pretty scary.

But keep trying with new ladies that you're interested in! the worst that can happen is they say no, and you've not really lost anything. You'll get better at doing it, and every no is one step closer to a yes.

[pbdm4k]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

hey ^ btw is toronto anywhere near montreal? im coming up for the f1 grand prix in june

Montreal is in Quebec, Toronto is Ontario, that'll be one province east of me.
About ooh, 5-6 hour drive from Toronto to Montreal.

Planning on visiting me?

[F87LUV]

lols.... no.... Just wondering... itll be my first trip to Canada past Niagra falls.

[pbdm4k]

Hrmm.. "no"... not used to hearing that one..

LOL...

Montreal will be fun. Just be warned about speeding in Ontario if you're coming up through this side of the border, over 50km/h they will take your license and impound your car. Then again, you can try saying, isn't it 50mph?

So... if I had a coupe, would that be a yes? hahaha...