[GuidoK]

A kevlar clutch is way overkill. I drove around for 5 years with way more power/torque, and the stock clutch held out fine. I swapped it for a Sachs race engineering clutch because I found a new one on ebay for $300 that I just couldn't pass on. When I swapped the clutch (90k miles, 30k supercharged at 340lbf+/380hp) it still wasnt worn to the point that replacement was really necessary.
The only advice I can give you is that a stock self adjusting bmw clutch is less precise in feedback on the grab point than a non self adjusting clutch. I certainly prefer the latter for a sportscar. Thats worth the upgrade alone imho.

That manufacture date is important because bmw went from 9 spline to 22 spline on their 5 speeds back then.
I'm not 100% sure but I think you can fit any 22 spline e46 clutch. Maybe you have to fit a new flywheel, but I'm not sure of that.
Even a stock e46 330i clutch would be an upgrade as you go from 228mm to 240mm.